Online Dating – Questions to Ask a Girl You Like Online

Just imagine you have just joined an Internet dating website. You have gone through all the formalities and time-consuming steps that it takes to join this online dating service. That was the easy part.

Now you need to start communicating with the female members that take your fancy. Sometimes it can be a little scary when confronted with the long lists of women that appear when you are browsing or searching via keywords, and you might find it hard to narrow the choice down. But there is a way to do it, and it applies equally to totally free dating sites as well as ones that you have to pay to become a member.

The best way to go from a hundred online dating candidates to five or so realistic ones is to ask questions. And plenty of them. But what should you be asking?

One of the best dating tips for men in this regard is to pretend you are a boss looking to hire a new employee. It sounds a bit unusual to be treating a woman dating candidate this way, but it is highly effective and has been proven to get great results. And don’t feel too uncomfortable, because you can bet your bottom dollar that the woman you are contacting (or who are contacting you, if you have created an awesome profile) will be marking off your qualities against a check list of her ideal features in a man.

Here are a sample top five questions to ask a girl you like online, with explanations of why you should be asking them.

1. How long have you been a member of this dating service?

If she has been on the site for more than two years, chances are she is a serial dater not focused on finding a life partner. But anywhere up to this time shows she is serious about finding the right guy by being patient. Or she may just want to use the site as a fun way of meeting guys.

2. What do you want to get out of this site, a long-term relationship or casual fun?

This may seem very forward, but if you have to whittle down several hundred potential dates, you have to cut to the chase quickly. The answer she gives you will be vital – depending on your own goals.

3. How many guys have you been out with that you met on this site?

If she dates every single guy that contacts her, she may be a little bit desperate. On the other hand, if she has been a member for some time and only dated a very small number of guys, then she may be so fussy or demanding that you are never going to please her.

4. How many of those guys did you get intimate with?

This is a question that you should ask after you have been communicating with the girl for some time. If you ask this question on first or second contact, she will think you are a pervert or just plain rude. Nevertheless, it is a question you need to ask, even if only from the point of view of protecting your health if the relationship develops.

5. What is you favourite book?

Some guys normally go for the favourite band/singer/movie question, but if the girl is a reader, you will find she is also much more fun as a conversationalist. If she can’t answer this question, then, if you really like her, then try a pop culture question.

Of course, there are many more questions to ask. Some of the best of these are:

  • What is you favourite food?
  • Who is your favourite comedian?
  • What are you career expectations?
  • Is money important to you?
  • What does family mean to you?
  • Have you ever been to jail?
  • Do you believe in love at first sight?

Just remember, if online communication stalls, fire off an odd-ball question to keep the interest level up. Girls love a guy who shows an interest in them.

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Tips on Dating a Filipina Girl (Also Known As Pinay)

If you are about to date a Filipina or Pinay (that’s a slang term to mean a girl coming from the Philippines or with Filipino ethnicity) or if you are just planning to go on one, consider this unsolicited advice.

Here are tips from a Filipino, someone who shares the same ethnicity and culture with your possible dream date. I’m a fellow heterosexual male who grew up in the said tropical islands, and is willing to give you a few tips when dating a Filipina girl. Here goes:

1. Good grooming and hygiene. I emphasize that this is a must. The greatest turn-offs (not only for Filipinas but also for women of all cultures) are bad breath, body odor, untidy and smelly clothes, dirty fingernails, etc.

Remember that we, Filipinos, are from a hot tropical archipelago with water in abundance. We take a bath at least once a day. The daily average is about twice, with a shower or a wash up before we go to bed. We don’t like the smell of sweat. If you’re from a country near the equator, you’d know how we feel like.

So freshen up on your cologne if you really want to impress a Filipina girl. If you’re a smoker (and even if she also is one), remember to chew a gum or a lime for a perfect smooch (but that what would come later in a date, a peck in the cheek is all you’re going to get when you arrive at your venue.
Filipinas also have a habit at looking at a guy’s fingernails (although they do it discreetly) so better trim them before you go out of your place.

Make a good impression, for as they say, the first ones really last.

2. Don’t discriminate against her religious views. The Philippines is a predominantly Catholic country (it’s around nine of out ten says the government, so chances are, you would be dating a Filipina (Pinay) Catholic).

A Pinay friend has once said to me: there are two bad topics to bring out when one is drinking. One is religion. The other is politics. But I guess, even if you’re both sober and not drunk, both topics are a definite no-no unless, of course, you have taken your relationship to a higher level. And still, don’t step beyond the bounds of a friendly discourse.

Closely related to this tip on your attitude her religion is the next one, which is her and her family. Although a Filipina may not strictly adhere to the Catholicism, she would find it derogatory if you nitpick on her faith because it is part of a tradition handed down to her by her parents or guardians, and that relationship is more sacred to her.

3. NEVER insult her family. To us Filipinos, family is important. Sometimes, it just maybe the most important thing in the world for us.

We come from a closely-knit but extensive family structure, where everyone is obligated to help a relative-in-need (even at times when they would tend to be dependent on other rather than in helping themselves).

You may think that our view on this is too feudal. But being in a Third World country (that has been tagged, for decades, as developing, into what, we may not know), our families has helped us get out of sticky situations for the longest time.

Better yet, enlist her family members as your allies for you to get closer to her Filipina heart!

4. Treat her as an equal. Now of course, we live in a modern civilized where women are not considered as second-class citizens or as mere playthings by men, especially those pretty Filipina girls who could give a really satisfying relationship.

Remember we have two Filipinas as previous presidents. Although the first was most loved (Cory Aquino) and the last was most hated (Gloria Macapagal-Arroyo), which is another story, this mere fact proves that you should treat your Pinay date as an equal, if you do not, she will regard it as an insult and you’d probably miss out on your chances to have a pretty, funny, and sexy but innocent partner-in-life.

Lastly, these tips – though unsolicited – would help you in your date with a Pinay. You may not want to follow them, probably concluding that this advice is too cumbersome, tiring and complex.