Just imagine you have just joined an Internet dating website. You have gone through all the formalities and time-consuming steps that it takes to join this online dating service. That was the easy part.
Now you need to start communicating with the female members that take your fancy. Sometimes it can be a little scary when confronted with the long lists of women that appear when you are browsing or searching via keywords, and you might find it hard to narrow the choice down. But there is a way to do it, and it applies equally to totally free dating sites as well as ones that you have to pay to become a member.
The best way to go from a hundred online dating candidates to five or so realistic ones is to ask questions. And plenty of them. But what should you be asking?
One of the best dating tips for men in this regard is to pretend you are a boss looking to hire a new employee. It sounds a bit unusual to be treating a woman dating candidate this way, but it is highly effective and has been proven to get great results. And don’t feel too uncomfortable, because you can bet your bottom dollar that the woman you are contacting (or who are contacting you, if you have created an awesome profile) will be marking off your qualities against a check list of her ideal features in a man.
Here are a sample top five questions to ask a girl you like online, with explanations of why you should be asking them.
1. How long have you been a member of this dating service?
If she has been on the site for more than two years, chances are she is a serial dater not focused on finding a life partner. But anywhere up to this time shows she is serious about finding the right guy by being patient. Or she may just want to use the site as a fun way of meeting guys.
2. What do you want to get out of this site, a long-term relationship or casual fun?
This may seem very forward, but if you have to whittle down several hundred potential dates, you have to cut to the chase quickly. The answer she gives you will be vital – depending on your own goals.
3. How many guys have you been out with that you met on this site?
If she dates every single guy that contacts her, she may be a little bit desperate. On the other hand, if she has been a member for some time and only dated a very small number of guys, then she may be so fussy or demanding that you are never going to please her.
4. How many of those guys did you get intimate with?
This is a question that you should ask after you have been communicating with the girl for some time. If you ask this question on first or second contact, she will think you are a pervert or just plain rude. Nevertheless, it is a question you need to ask, even if only from the point of view of protecting your health if the relationship develops.
5. What is you favourite book?
Some guys normally go for the favourite band/singer/movie question, but if the girl is a reader, you will find she is also much more fun as a conversationalist. If she can’t answer this question, then, if you really like her, then try a pop culture question.
Of course, there are many more questions to ask. Some of the best of these are:
- What is you favourite food?
- Who is your favourite comedian?
- What are you career expectations?
- Is money important to you?
- What does family mean to you?
- Have you ever been to jail?
- Do you believe in love at first sight?
Just remember, if online communication stalls, fire off an odd-ball question to keep the interest level up. Girls love a guy who shows an interest in them.
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